The Baddest Bitch in the Building

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Second last Hack y'all!!! We're going to discuss how to apply the Zeigarnik effect (leaving things unfinished) as a way to navigate through the patriarchy and through life in general. ✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building. Love, Neeki Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:19 Learning some stuff 9:46 Unlearning the crap 26:28 What this means for you If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Episodes mentioned: The dark side of corporate (that your boss hides from you) (listen on Spotify or Apple Podcasts) Girly law of power #31: Be the fantasy woman (listen on Spotify or Apple Podcasts) Part 1 of my 5-part series on capitalism & patriarchy's monstrous lovechild (listen on Spotify or Apple Podcasts)…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. The title says it all. In this episode, we're going to discuss 6 behaviours that every highly confident woman needs. Remember, no one is born with the confidence of a mediocre man. We must consciously build the right behaviours while unlearning the crap taught to us through patriarchy. Episodes mentioned: Girly law of power #16: Master the art of silence (listen on Spotify or Apple Podcasts) Girly law of power #32: Stop trying to be understood by everyone (listen on Spotify of Apple Podcasts) How to stop over explaining yourself: The hidden social rule you need to know (listen on Spotify of Apple Podcasts) Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 4:28 1- Move more slowly 7:48 2- Be slightly overdressed 11:47 3- Stop fidgeting & touching yourself 12:54 4- Always say less than necessary 15:00 5- Avoid…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. If patriarchy were the natural order, it wouldn't need violence, coercion, and brainwashing to uphold itself. In this episode, we're going to look at brainwashing (one of the top 3 fave tool of the patriarchy's PR team). What does it really look like to wake up from the trance and reach the other side of the veil? Also, I've come to realize that the more enlightened we become, the more we sound like conspiracy theories. Wackadoodle baddies unite! xo PS I highly recommend watching this on YouTube so you can see the visuals <3 Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:11 Level 1 3:29 Level 2 6:02 Level 3 9:08 Level 4 16:26 Level 5 19:07 Level 6 23:18 Level 7 If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Sources: Eve: How the Female Body Drove 200 Million Years of Human Evolution…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. The role of a corporate worker is to make rich people more money (and this is coming from an ex-corporate employee). Corporate work feels meaningless because it deprives us of consciousness, monopolizes our time, divorces us from our labour, and gives us no purpose. I'll discuss each of these elements and map them along what I call the continuum of control/doom/misery. And keep an eye out for Joanne V Pious ;) PS I highly recommend watching this on YouTube so you can see the visuals <3 Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 5:17 Consciousness 17:32 Time 24:20 Interlude (Skit) 29:46 Labour 31:14 Purpose If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Sources: Founding of the National Labor Union and the 1st National Call for a 8-Hour Work Day Invisible Doctrine: The Secret History…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Is it the end of the influencer era? In this episode I discuss the lies and exploitation keeping most influencers relevant. I'll also get into some data and history because the math ain't mathing y'all. PS I highly recommend watching this on YouTube so you can see the visuals <3 Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 10:12 Why do they all look the same? 13:26 The rise of the middle class influencer 17:33 How influencers prey on your insecurities 35:40 Is being anti-influencer a disguise for misogyny? If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Sources: Creator Earnings Report 2023 From Norway to Wisconsin, children want to be social media influencers when they grow up The Creator Economy Has a New Middle Class The Post-Pandemic Workplace: The Experiment Continues Report: How…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Creating an alter ego is a cheat code not only in navigating the patriarchy, but in navigating life. It enables us to create a version of ourselves that's not weighed down by our fears and limiting beliefs. It's no surprise so many celebrities have an alter ego...and that religions (literally) demonize people who channel them... ✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building. Love, Neeki Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:55 Unlearning the crap 18:49 The law in the wild 24:16 What this means for you 28:36 Exceptions and final thoughts If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Sources: Not I, but she: The beneficial effects of self-distancing on challenge/threat cardiovascular responses Self-talk as a…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. I worked with some of the highest-ranking women in corporate Canada. Here are 7 behaviours I observed among all these women. As Machiavelli says in The Prince, appearances matter more than reality. Enjoy ;) Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:05 Behaviour 1 4:30 Behaviour 2 12:54 Behaviour 3 14:34 Behaviour 4 17:05 Behaviour 5 21:14 Behaviour 6 24:11 Behaviour 7 26:23 Bonus behaviour If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Episodes mentioned: Patriarchy Hack #33: Trigger people’s need to prove themselves to you (listen on Spotify or Apple Podcasts) __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Short form content has enshittified a lot of the discourse around women empowerment. A lot of “feminist” content has been condensed into easy to digest soundbites that follows a specific formula (which I’ll get into). In this episode I’m going to discuss three big cases of what I call “brain rot feminism” (aka pseudo women empowerment or choice feminism) that have probably shown up on your feed at some point. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 6:08 The formula 7:46 Example 1: Having a bf is embarrassing 18:09 Example 2: “As he should” 27:22 Example 3: Being a girl’s girl 32:30 The solution If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Episodes mentioned: Is falling in love a patriarchal trap?…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Welcome to the second episode of Machiavelli for Women. In this series, I decode The Prince, one of the most controversial texts in history, to help women flip the patriarchy on its head. In this episode, I discuss the most dangerous type of friend in our circle. This person hides in plain sight and their danger might be dormant for years, until triggered. And sometimes, that dangerous friend is not even a person at all... BTW this article by Elizabeth Stice was my inspo for the AI angle of this discussion. xoxoxo Neekolo Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 3:57 What Machiavelli says 13:04 Two reasons women aren't united 23:12 The MOST dangerous of all 29:48 How to take back control If you get ads at the beginning of this…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Commitment and loyalty are glorified ways of infantilizing ourselves. Patriarchy needs to mentally capture women in order to function, and one of its PR team's favourite marketing tactics is "commitment." In this episode I'll discuss: Why you've been conditioned to think your worth depends on how committed you are How people play mind games to make you commit The different disguises loyalty wears An example of a baddie who committed, got screwed over, became unattached, and found huge success 4 strategies to never fall victim to loyalty again In a world full of sheep and wolves, be a fox. ✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building. Love, Neeki…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Patriarchy has made us believe we’re separate. It has pitted men against women, women against women, women against men. But this division is based on manufactured fear and scarcity. The truth is, we were never separate and we never can be. In fact, the ancients revealed five fundamental truths about humanity, the meaning of life, and what it means to be you. Those truths tell us exactly how to escape from the patriarchy. And it all starts with the consciousness you’re about to gain. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 6:34 The first truth 15:53 The second truth 21:53 The third truth 30:37 The fourth truth 34:43 The fifth truth If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps The inspiration…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Classic Disney villains aren't just baddies with red nails, colourful eyeshadows, and arched eyebrows, they're a goldmine of information. Just like its Hidden Mickeys, Disney left some hidden messages about patriarchy, female power, and self-actualization among its baddie villains. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 4:58 The first truth 19:39 The second truth 24:57 The third truth 32:21 Recap + closing thoughts If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Episodes mentioned: There's an entire side of patriarchy you know nothing about (listen on Spotify or Apple) Do NOTHING for men | Machiavelli vs Patriarchy Ep. 1 (listen on Spotify or Apple) __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Welcome to the first episode of Machiavelli vs Patriarchy. In this series, I decode The Prince, one of the most controversial texts in history, to help women flip the patriarchy on its head. In this episode, I discuss the Machiavellian strategy of why we should never build up another person and apply it to relationship dynamics with men. xoxoxo Neekolo Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:22 What Machiavelli says 7:33 Why being in love makes you stupid 11:36 The sneaky way we're socialized 19:46 Why you've been doing too much for men If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Music credit © Chœur des Marais, Villefranche sur Saône, Fr Episodes mentioned: Is falling in love a patriarchal…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. First things first, make sure to watch until the VERY END of the episode...you'll know what I mean. Second of all, the benefit of the doubt is a way we've normalized gaslighting ourselves. We dismiss our intuition, which patriarchy deems un-empirical and unreliable, and give people chances they don't deserve. Rinse and repeat until we get burned enough times that we finally stop. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 1:23 We've glorified gaslighting ourselves 9:58 We act like doormats 16:49 The bad habits holding you back If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Episodes mentioned: There's an entire side of patriarchy you know nothing about (listen on Spotify or Apple) Everything you need…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Patriarchy fetishizes youth and disdains aging. On top of that, it also functions based on zero-sum thinking: that for you to succeed, someone else has to lose. Although these sound like a load of baloney, we're all mirroring these patriarchal mindsets. That, in turn, keeps us in a debilitating cycle of nostalgia. We romanticize the past and become mentally stuck in a location we physically left. In this episode, we’ll discuss: The patriarchal mindsets engrained in us 4 things to unlearn so we stop romanticizing the past How Charli XCX didn't let brat nostalgia dictate her career 7 effective behaviours of forward-looking people The past is dead, the future is unborn, and the only thing alive is the present. ✨ Hope…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. No self-improvement journey is complete without unlearning our internalized patriarchy. This doesn't only manifest itself as macro-level behaviours, like being a huge pick me. Some habits are so subtle, they're almost hidden within our subconscious... Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 3:32 1- Saying "sorry" instead of "thank you" 10:19 2- Not ending your sentences 17:39 3- Using qualifiers to soften your contribution 23:29 4- Taking yourself too seriously 30:12 5- Being overly reactive If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Episodes mentioned: Life in a patriarchy is a game, and it’s time to win (listen on Spotify or Apple) The ultimate revenge: The psychological power of being…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Read more about 20 ways to unlearn how the patriarchy groomed us. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. The patriarchy is a textbook example of the law of inversion: what we see isn't the truth, it's a defence mechanism. In fact, the entire system is an institutionalized defence mechanism of Venus/womb envy and it's governed by slave morality (hi, Nietzsche). Flip what it tells you and that's when you get the truth. In this episode, I'll discuss 5 examples of how the patriarchy hides the truth in plain sight. I encourage you to do the same with anything presented to you as "truth" or "nature." Make sure to watch until the end to see a little satirical skit of the patriarchy's first PR meeting BTW you can listen to my episode the biological clock as a patriarchal myth on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube <3 Timestamps: 0:00 Intro…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want a better, expanded version of the first 20 Patriarchy Hacks in book format? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Women are not small men, yet for decades medical research has treated us as such. What's even worse is that women have been excluded from research because of our menstrual cycles. And what's even worser is that because of this bias, many girls and women get misdiagnosed, undiagnosed, and gaslit. In this episode I'll debunk some myths, share some useful information, and hopefully give you a starting point to do your own research. Disclaimer: I am not a medical, dental, or mental health professional and this video is not medical advice, dental, or mental health advice. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 3:14 Gender bias in ADHD diagnoses 7:31 Oral hygiene 16:16 Needing 6-8 hrs of sleep 19:39 Cold plunges/cold showers 25:01…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want a better, expanded version of the first 20 Patriarchy Hacks in book format? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Doing anything with the expectation that we’ll be appreciated and recognized is a surefire path to disappointment. However, it’s something many women and people pleasers continue doing. In this episode, we’ll discuss: 3 things about gratitude we need to learn A deep-rooted misconception that we need to unlearn A textbook example of why gratitude keeps us waiting for a reward that never comes The mindset shift you need to finally stop begging for validation Let’s stop appealing to the past. The past is dead, the future is unborn, and the only thing alive is the present. ✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building. Love, Neeki Timestamps: 0:00 Intro…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Female rage can move mountains. As women, we have so much to be angry about, and rightfully so. However, many women get caught in the trap of channelling their anger towards men. Don't get me wrong, that anger is justified. But anger without an outlet becomes, at best, resentment, and worst, self-destruction. In this episode, I'll help you unlock a new level of consciousness about your anger and how it could be rooted in things you never thought of. I highly suggest you also listen to my episode "7 ways to make your feminine rage work for you" on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:26 The power of female rage 8:35 The truth about anger & why we repress it 14:48 A new level of consciousness about anger 21:21 The antidote to…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. This week's episode is a bit counterintuitive. Every culture and religion (yikes) has a variation of "The Golden Rule": Treat people how you want to be treated. This principle has brainwashed many women into a false sense of fairness and reciprocity with the world. It keeps us running in a hamster wheel, waiting for a reward that never materializes. Worst of all, it makes us oblivious to the way the world really operates. Listen to find out how The Golden Rule may have damaged your relationships, and four new rules to replace it with. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:18 Why The Golden Rule is so harmful 11:55 You're prob doing too much 20:56 The four PLATINUM rules If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps __________…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Your compulsion to argue, get the last word, or make someone "pay" for what they did to you is a projection. You think, "If I were in their shoes, I would've never done that." Well you're not in their janky Crocs. In this episode, I'll discuss: Why people want to trigger you to begin with How to spot energy vultures How to pull an uno reverse on them Why being unbothered is the best form of revenge Why reacting to an energy vulture is dangerous Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:49 Why people want to trigger you 6:08 A textbook example of an energy vulture 12:37 The psychological power of being unbothered 15:58 How to be unbothered 20:50 The power of ambiguity If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps __________ 🎙️…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Most of us are so caught up in arguing, trying to get the last word, or shattering someone's ego that we fail to realize how GOOFY we look. Not to mention arguing and trying to be understood are forms of emotional labour. So cut it out. Besides, why would you want to shatter someone's ego when you can trigger it? In this episode, you'll understand that real power is making your opponent look goofy, often without saying a word. I'll discuss: - Two things we need to unlearn - Why there's no such thing as winning an argument - The real reason people want you to argue with them - A crazy example of how I implemented this law - The silent, Machiavellian strategy of winning ✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Over the last few years, Shera Seven's content has taken social media by storm. Her "sprinkle sprinkle" philosophy preaches that women should be gold diggers and marry a man solely based on his ability to financially provide. Don't get me wrong, I love the woman and agree with most of what she says. However, there are some flaws in her advice that at best, get bastardized and misinterpreted, and at worst, lead to deeply engrained patriarchy. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:00 Spending money on someone is a cop out 8:42 Reality isn't real, it's mediated 13:34 The 9 to 5 trap 19:36 The femininity trap 26:31 The dark side of sprinkle sprinkle 32:31 Do all men cheat? 38:57 What should we do? If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Most of us want best for ourselves. We want the dream job, salary, house. But that's all it is: a want. You can't want something and have it at the same time. So you stay in a perpetual state of want to prevent yourself from getting the things you desire. Then you breathe a sigh of relief, because nothing has to change. Unfortunately, stagnation feels more comfortable than success because your brain and nervous system want to keep you safe and comfy. On top of that, you've internalized a lot of crap about how women should behave and what we should aspire to be. In this episode I'll discuss exactly how to stop standing in the way of your own success so you can finally build the life you deserve. BTW here's the lifetraps quiz I mentioned. Timestamps:…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Life is a game and it’s rigged. Some say we should opt out altogether. Others say we should play by the rules and hope for the best. There’s no shortage of terrible advice that will make us lose. We’re in the game whether we want to be or not, and it’s our responsibility to ourselves to win. Once you understand not just the code of the game, but the blueprint of the universe, hacking the game becomes a breeze. Life in a patriarchy is a game, and it’s time to win. It's time to hack the patriarchy. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 3:06 How we’re programmed to lose 7:32 Is it even possible to win? 10:47 Taking back control of reality 20:52 How to hack the game If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps __________ 🎙️ About…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Healing is great. It's an act of self-love and self-care. However, healing won't prevent you from ending up in the same situation that hurt you. In fact, it's a way many women internalize the external abuse they've encountered, and think they're broken. People don't treat you better based on how healed you are, they treat you based on what you tolerate and what you believe you deserve. And as women, we've been groomed to tolerate a lot of crap. There's only one way to unlearn this grooming, and healing won't get you there. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:15 Why you're superstitious, even if you don't think so 8:06 The hidden agenda behind "healing" 14:52 You're not broken, but this type of person is 18:40 If healing isn't the answer, what is? If you get…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Most women think we need chase people/things. That's because patriarchy has brainwashed us to think we need to prove ourselves in order to affirm our self-worth. In this episode, I'll get into why the complete opposite is true. In fact, making women think they're the chasers rather than the choosers goes against the matriarchal nature of human beings. When we sit back and let people prove themselves to us, we trigger a very basic psychological need for validation. I call this being an anus and shifting the onus. In this episode, I’ll discuss: Why proving yourself makes you look weak & disposable How to stop looking desperate Three psychological strategies to trigger people's need to prove themselves to you How to use this law in dating, work,…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Niceness is a way of grooming women for extraction. We're brainwashed into thinking it's more important to be liked than to be respected, and we can only be liked by doing things for others. Not only does this set you up for failure, it also makes people much less likely to respect you. Sure, everyone likes the nice girl because they can use her, but no one respects her. And chances are, you're not mean enough. In this episode, I’ll discuss: How to earn the respect you deserve What it means to be mean How to take a page out of mens' book (after we unstick the pages) 3 mindset shifts to break free from the nice girl conditioning An example of a spicy personal incident & what the baddies can learn from it Also what I learned from watching Jersey…

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon! 📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Mansplainers are the unpaid interns of the patriarchy. Annoying, yes. Useful, also yes. In this episode, I break down a simple psychological formula that turns mansplaining into a strategic advantage. Because it’s time to stop playing fair in an unfair world. When you understand the psychology behind why someone feels the need to explain everything to you, the dynamic DRASTICALLY changes. Instead of shutting them down, you guide the conversation, lower their guard, and steer the interaction where you want it to go. Smart women don’t get mad. They redirect a mansplainer’s impulse to explain into leverage. This episode explains the same elicitation techniques used by intelligence professionals in agencies like the FBI and CIA. These methods help…

📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. In this episode, I talk about why so many women feel the need to keep explaining themselves. Over explaining often comes from people pleasing, fear of judgment, and subtle social power dynamics. Once you see the pattern, you start noticing how explaining yourself too much affects confidence, boundaries, and the way people (don't) respect you. I'll break down the psychology behind over explaining, why women do it, and the mindset shift that helps you stop explaining yourself and start being taken seriously. This episode is complimentary to the one directly preceding it (Girly law of power #32: Stop trying to be understood by everyone). PS I strongly recommend you listen to this with earphones to get the full experience. You'll see what I mean...because when I told y'all everything up…

📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. We've made it to law #32! Not that it's a particularly important number...I'm just grateful to have all you baddies here <3 Being understood is bloody exhausting. It's also a way we get emotional safety, because we've been brainwashed to believe that our truth is only valid if others understand and accept it. What a load of baloney. In this episode, we're throwing out this rotten baloney by discussing: How being understood is a fear-based response Why the patriarchy benefits from our compulsion to feel understood How this damages people's perception of us & makes them respect us less 5 ways to unlearn this compulsion The patriarchy loophole we can exploit when we stop trying to be understood ✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest…

📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. In this episode, I break down every week of our menstrual cycle and to help you understand what’s happening hormonally, what your body needs from you, and how you can sync your cycle to your life. We’ll discuss: All 4 weeks: Menstruation, the follicular phase, ovulation, and the luteal phase How your estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone levels are changing What this means for your mood, energy levels, productivity, sociability, and physical performance What your body is trying to do during each phase What each phase is best suited for Timestamps: 2:03 - Intro, the basics of the follicular & luteal phases, estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone 9:01 - Week 1: Menstruation (Winter) 22:29 - Week 2: Follicular (Spring) 28:54 - Week 3: Ovulation (Summer) 38:21 - Week 4 Luteal…

📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. From the time we're little girls, we're taught that romantic love is something we should aspire to. That when we grow up, we have to find Mr. Right and marry him for love. And if we don't marry for love, we're shallow, demanding, gold diggers. The real gold diggers are men who sell the myth of romantic love, because they have nothing else to offer. In this episode, we'll map out romantic love to the 4 rungs of the marketing funnel (awareness, consideration, conversion, loyalty) and discuss how love has been used as a recruitment strategy by the patriarchy. __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the…

📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. In this highly-requested episode, we’re going to discuss the question everyone’s asked at some point: Can you trust your coworkers? Because I’m a Machiavellian Barbie and not just some sheep, I’m going to go WAY deeper than anyone ever has when discussing this question. We’ll talk about: Why the workplace rewards the worst of human nature The scarcity mindset that fuels workplace competition Why the workplace is a dictatorship How companies use industry jargon to manipulate reality 9 types of people to watch out for 10 ways to protect yourself 9 types of people to watch out for: Anyone who’s overly friendly (17:20) Anyone who’s quiet while others are sharing (18:29) Anyone who gossips to you (19:07) Women who are your polar opposite (19:51) Anyone who’s insecure (23:44) Anyone who…

📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. People don't want the truth, they want what's going to make them feel better. And that's exactly what the fantasy woman does. Too many women are caught up in the Righteousness Olympics, and think they have to be 100% honest all the time. LOL. Imagine playing fair in an unfair, patriarchal world. In this episode, we'll discuss: Why people don't want the truth Why you'll always lose when you play fair and honest How men, employers, and job recruiters cracked this code a long time ago How they've been selling you the fantasy to take advantage of you How to be the fantasy woman in dating, work, and job interviews Timestamps: Intro: What is fantasy and why are people so obsessed with it (1:50) Exceptions: Why fair, righteous women always lose (12:09) Example: How job recruiters sell you…

📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or purchase the signed paperback, PDF or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here. You won't believe what I'm about to tell you. Women don't have a "biological clock." That term was coined by journalist Richard Cohen in his misogynistic 1978 article "The Clock Is Ticking For The Career Woman." This article hits the two Ps (pseudoscience and patriarchy) and does what these silly Ps do best: rush women into motherhood and shame them for prioritizing their careers. In the words of Kesha, "Tik tok on the clock but the party don't stop." Because for women, the party truly doesn't stop. That's why humans are one of the only mammals with menopause. In fact, research is finding that MEN have a biological clock, and it begins ticking around age 35. Sources: A Look at Your Fertility Timeline Andrology: Cumulative conception rate following intrauterine artificial insemination with husband's…

📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. This episode is a listener requested topic on my origin story. I'll briefly discuss the god awful relationship I was in for 5 YEARS. Then I'll discuss 7 lessons we can all learn so we never make the same mistakes I did. People will push you as far as you let them -- even the nice guys (16:51) A relationship is a web of precedents (18:20) You cannot change anyone (20:14) Not having gender roles creates resentment (23:41) Like begets like (28:09) Your fear of being alone will enable manipulation and abuse (29:40) Ugliness is your body’s way of communicating with you (32:05) Note: If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to these timestamps. __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in…

📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file. Free preview available here. Feminine/female rage is the righteous anger we feel at a world that subjugates and violates us daily. Female rage has become a ubiquitous topic, but it’s time we discuss how to channel it productively. Unresolved anger turns into resentment, hatred, and psychosomatic symptoms like digestive issues and migraines. And guess what – we’re not contestants in the Suffering Olympics like Victimella is. So let’s put our female rage to work. Channel rage into creativity (6:14) Reconnect with your ancestors (10:25) Be so grateful it’s cringe (12:37) Recalibrate the algorithm of your life (16:29) Find a physical release (21:05) Understand the law of inversion (22:33) Be a bigger bitch than before (27:11) Note: If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to these timestamps.…

❤️‍🩹 Try Stress Less by Semaine Health, a clinically formulated gummy designed to support healthier stress response and cortisol balance. Use code NEEKI20 for 20% off. 📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here. What people show you isn't their true selves, it's their defence mechanisms. And if you look just beneath the surface, you'll see exactly what they're trying to hide. In fact, if you look deep enough, you might even see yourself. In this episode, I'll discuss: Why we need to stop being gullible & taking things at face value How to see beneath the empty shell of someone's big ego Why certain people have big egos to begin with (it's not why you think) How to spot people's inversion patterns (aka what they're hiding) 4 steps to deal with someone who's got a big ego ✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building. Love,…

📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here. Most people think the five love languages are a pop psychology phenomenon. However, they're not rooted in psychology at all. The origins of the five love languages are closer to the Bible than to science, and they were never made as a tool to help women in their relationships. That's because they were created by Baptist preacher Gary Chapman, a man who's trained in Biblical counselling. His background involves no scientific or psychological training. The crazy thing is, that isn't even the most problematic part. I read Chapman's book, The 5 Love Languages, and in this episode I critically dissect his theory from a feminist lens in a way no one's ever done before. I'll discuss: The conservative & misogynistic origins of Biblical counselling How marriage counselling originated as a form of eugenics (& how this agenda found its way into the church)…

📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here. Tomorrow is my 28th birthday & I want to open up about a fear I've had for most of my 20s: aging. __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us. 👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management…

📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here. Most of us think of gossip as something malicious. However, for centuries, gossip had no negative connotation. A woman's "gossip" were her close friends, and female friendships were a form of social power that gave women's lives fulfillment and security. It all became topsy turvy in the 16th century, when the church combined forces with labour guilds (you'll see what I mean). That's when gossip became demonized into something malicious, aggressive, and bitchy. Because patriarchy and early capitalism needed quiet, subservient women in order to function. In this episode, we'll discuss: Why patriarchy & controlling men are so scared of female friendships The violent history of silencing women How men continue to silence women The role of gossip in human evolution How to reclaim gossip in your life starting today Sources: Gossip in Evolutionary…

📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here. Have you ever wondered why every Abrahamic religion treats menstruating women as dirty and spiritually contaminated? That’s because religion took creation – something that’s uniquely feminine – and attributed it to a male god. And because it couldn’t erase the physical evidence of female creation, it warped it into something shameful and impure. In this episode, I roll up my sleeves and answer the questions many of us are afraid to ask. I’ll discuss: How religion began 250,000 years ago as a shamanistic practice with female leaders The catalyst that made religion devolve into a patriarchal institution The neuroscience research showing how religion shuts down parts of our brain How religion & girlhood socialization contain complementary grooming mechanisms The missing piece explaining the paradox that women tend to be more religious than men Whether…

📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here. Have you ever wondered why someone ghosted you? I bet you felt pretty crappy afterward, and spent days thinking of something you said or did that pushed the person away. You probably replayed your interactions over and over again to spot where it all went wrong. I have some good news for you that will settle the question of "Why do I keep getting ghosted" once and for all. After this episode, you'll never ask that question again, I guarantee it. Thanks for tuning in to my new weekly mini-series, Sunday School, where I share a small lesson from my new book, How to Hack the Patriarchy. This one's from Patriarchy Hack 4: Never Take Anything Personally. __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: Patriarchal power runs like software. Once you understand its code and where its bugs are, you can easily hack it. Inspired by The 48 Laws of Power, The Baddest Bitch in…

📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here. Society tells us the major “accomplishments” in a woman’s life are getting married and having kids. Both of which are actions that bring people into her life. Unfortunately, most of what’s celebrated in women is about distracting us from our power and finding ourselves in other people. On top of that, there’s so much fear instilled in us: “Who’s going to take care of you when you’re old?” “Your biological clock is ticking!” “Who’s going to protect you?” “You’re happy now but what about when you’re 50 and alone?” There’s only ONE thing guaranteed in your life: your relationship with yourself. So why is it that so many women are terrified of being alone? In this episode we discuss: How patriarchy uses tools like urgency and fear to spook us into dependence and distraction The difference between being single and being sovereign Why fearing being alone…

📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here. Fun fact: Feminism is a response to patriarchy. Baddies welcome to my new weekly mini-series, Sunday School, where I share a small lesson from my new book, How to Hack the Patriarchy. This one's from the introduction. Class is in session, and today we're discussing feminism's branding problem. Over the last few years, feminism's reputation has become severely damaged. If you say you're a feminist, get ready to be labelled an angry, man-hating, snowflake. What was once a widely accepted (and vital) social movement has now been reduced to a joke among men and an embarrassment among women. Why did this shift happen? And what can we do to shift this perception and get the show back on the road? Tune into this class to find out. __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: Patriarchal power runs like software. Once you understand its code and where its bugs are,…

📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here. Every time you tell yourself you're "hoping for the best" or you're "gonna see what happens," you're doing what the patriarchy wants you to do. You're relinquishing control and leaving your fate to what's out there. And let me remind you what's out there: sexism, racism, colourism, homophobia, and many other -isms and -phobias. So by leaving things to chance, you're exposing your future to the worst forces the world has to offer. In this episode, I go into detail on why it's so harmful to leave things to chance, and I'll discuss what we can do to counteract this and reclaim control over our lives & futures. __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: Patriarchal power runs like software. Once you understand its code and where its bugs are, you can easily hack it. Inspired by The 48 Laws of Power, The Baddest Bitch in the Building is the first and only podcast…

📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here. I'm sure you want people to do more for you, especially your partner. Maybe even your coworkers. Unfortunately, because most women are conditioned to perform constant emotional labour, there's a specific behaviour you need to stop if you want people to step up in your life. In this episode, we'll get into the mindsets that are making your life more difficult and causing you to self-sabotage. We'll also discuss the one behaviour shift that will make your life so much easier. BTW make sure to stay up-to-date on my giveaway announcement and book launch by following my Instagram 📚 My book "How to Hack the Patriarchy" will be released November 25 on Amazon. __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: Patriarchal power runs like software. Once you understand its code and where its bugs are, you can easily hack it. Inspired by The 48 Laws of Power, The Baddest Bitch…

📚 AND don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or get a signed paperback, PDF, or EPUB directly from me. Free preview available here. Your tendency to be realistic is robbing you of the future you deserve. From girlhood, most of us have been discouraged from being "too" ambitious because it violates the traditional trajectory of a woman's life: go to school, get a job, get married, become a mother, retire, die. Rinse & repeat in the next life. Babes, true delusion is accepting a life someone else decided was “right” for you. You know how many people told me I'm delusional, unrealistic, and crazy for wanting to quit my corporate job to start a podcast? Plenty. If I'd listened to them, you wouldn't be about to press play to listen to me. Deviating from the status quo will get you backlash and side eye, but that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. In fact, it's a sign you're on the right path. No one is more upset than a goof who sees a woman living life on her own terms.…